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Brigid Strait Johns's avatar

My other half buys his own bath mats, so my gift this year is framing his favorite art. I did the research (here's where to go, what it will cost, and an online framing mockup we can use to decide what we like before we take it in) and am giving him final say on the frame/mat combo. Since we're both extremely opinionated oldest/only children, that's the real gift.

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S. Jane Kim's avatar

That is so thoughtful!! Haha I totally relate to wanting final approval before such a large purchase.

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Brigid Strait Johns's avatar

I offered to let him make the decision entirely by himself, and he passed! I think we both have more fun when, well, we both have fun.

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Lou Tamposi's avatar

Solid recommendations! The book “Through the Color Lens” is a fascinating if the guy is interested in language and color and might also help them reconcile some of their own color struggles (they might not have the literal language for nuance). You could also look at 100% merino for a long underwear option. They are a little more expensive, but if you don’t need a “name brand” you can find some options under $50.

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S. Jane Kim's avatar

Thanks for these ideas, Lou! Though the book Through the Color Lens seems to be $65 and no reviews? Where do you get your fancy merino long johns from?

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Lou Tamposi's avatar

For the merino base layers, I have a pair from Meriwool that are solid: https://www.amazon.com/MERIWOOL-Layer-Merino-Thermal-Pants/dp/B086BLWX9H

If I had $130 to blow on glorified long underwear, I'd get these from Sitka: https://www.sitkagear.com/products/core-merino-330-bottom/colt

These are arguably more versatile (can be worn as joggers), but are unfortunately out of stock in most sizes: https://duckcamp.com/products/merino-wool-jogger-pin-oak

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Lou Tamposi's avatar

Whoops! Totally mistyped the title. It's "Through the Language Glass" and can be found here: https://www.amazon.com/Through-Language-Glass-Different-Languages/dp/0312610491

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S. Jane Kim's avatar

This book looks so interesting!! I'll have to check it out.

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Ariana's avatar

Holy shit I may be either wife of the year or extremely selfish for doing silk LJs because I DESPISE his lol great idea. love the bath mat idea for unpartnered men. I also have found massage or nail salon giftcards are underrated gifts for men

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S. Jane Kim's avatar

Oooh massage or salon are great ideas! Yes I have never met a partnered man without a bath mat, haha

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oliverkhobbs's avatar

I’ll also admit that I’m not so good at colors lol

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S. Jane Kim's avatar

hahaha

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